Dating after a long-term relationship
How do you start dating again after a long-term relationship?
So you’ve been in a relationship for years and then—you’re not. You’ve broken up with your significant other and now you’re out in the dating wilderness.
And you’ve made it to a point where you think it might be time to get out and date again. You’re scared, but you’re also excited.
But—how do you do it? You’re thinking to yourself, “My game has dried up. I can’t do this again.”
Let me tell you, you can.
While dating in your 20s can seem potentially limitless, especially with dating apps, my good friend Rebecca Alisandratos is going to tell you exactly how she got back into the dating game after being in one long-term relationship her entire college career.
And most importantly, how finding the strength to put herself out there had to start first with the confidence and peace she felt within herself.
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Behind the scenes
It’s here! My first interview-based episode with my good friend Rebecca!
Most of my podcast episodes with guests this season are with friends. Many of my friends are in their 20s, and since I know them well, I can basically match existing ideas for episodes in my head with the people I know can tell that kind of story the best. And my friends have strong and interesting stories.
I honestly really appreciated Rebecca’s enthusiasm when I reached out to her about this, and her openness during the whole process. Getting to interview my friends helps these conversations flow easily, but also allows us to get deeper. Rebecca is a very lively and upbeat person, which made the interview really fun to have as well. You can tell because we laugh a lot during it. Thanks girl!
This episode took me about 30 hours to edit. I know. It took me much longer than I thought.
I ran into a lot of audio issues. The audio from Rebecca from a recording platform I had used didn’t sound amazing when I put it into Audition. It sounded tinny, and there were parts where you could hear a kind of metallic hum. This wasn’t the case with other audio I had recorded on the platform.
I was. freaking. out. So I spent hours watching YouTube tutorials, playing around with EQ, and reaching out to some trusted audio editor friends (thanks Steph and Jaxson!) to see what I could do.
I thought I managed to clean it up very nicely, but then I remembered I had Rebecca record backup audio on her phone (I ask pretty much all of my guests to do this). And at first I hadn’t considered it because there seemed to be a loud fan in the back. But when I ran it through Denoise in Audition, it sounded 1000% better than the original audio.
So, did I go back and replace all of Rebecca’s audio after I had already edited most of the episode? You bet I did! And it was worth it. Now, I can look back at it as a learning experience. Now!
This episode is about dating, but it also isn’t about dating. It’s about finding peace with your relationship with yourself to then feel ready to work on your relationship with others. It’s about growing as a person—becoming more open to whatever kinds of relationships manifest in your life, and going more with the flow. Our relationship with ourselves is always evolving, and there’s never going to be a “perfect” time to then go out and date other people.
But it’s about taking off that pressure on when you should date and how you should do it. There’s a huge dating culture in your 20s, and I wanted to explore that, along with finding fulfillment and fun.
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